Emotional Healing Blog

Addictions self help requires understanding, then the right action

Fri, 20 Apr 2012 16:50:01 GMT

Addictions self help means really understanding all the wisdom in the feelbetter counselling website – so you know what you must do

Want to know depression treatment that really works? Start here

Thu, 19 Apr 2012 11:00:20 GMT

The simple depression treatment is explained – improving sleep, clearing old patterns and problem solving to get needs met.

Michelle's testament of healing from her depression

Fri, 02 Mar 2012 16:38:04 GMT

Michele expalins what depression was for her and how Andrew Richardson helped her to heal

Mr Vigurs

Thu, 09 Feb 2012 08:05:58 GMT

I think that it is so sad that our modern society has to lump people in categories to the extent that we do. What pisses me off is the way people use the

Life coaching - discover what makes you tick so to get your life working better

Fri, 20 Jan 2012 16:18:15 GMT

Life coaching enhances the best of what you already know. How to work better with your emotions? So that you can find your route to successful action.

Time line therapy is effective as it is essential that we all have a life story

Mon, 26 Dec 2011 13:02:35 GMT

Time line therapy can be used in many ways to clear emotional blockages and free us from past experiences which linger on

simon's email may encourage other anxiety sufferers

Thu, 15 Dec 2011 16:35:47 GMT

Simons email to me after our final session describes his journey to emotional health

YIN AND YANG

Thu, 03 Nov 2011 10:28:40 GMT

For an emotionally healthy life, ying yang is a powerful metaphor to understand and use.

That two is better than one…that there is always one other option to take..that there is never no change or just one direction …that a move always creates its own reaction and that so much of what we do comes in pairs, working against each other in some way.

But that the two are connected – that there is a unity in everything. Enjoy the image of yinyang fish.

Self confidence can take off as we take control of our emotions

Thu, 25 Aug 2011 17:57:01 GMT

Self confidence for most of us reflects how well our life is working - pure and simple. This is not true for all however and if so new templates of success may then be needed.

Self development begins by asking the right questions

Mon, 15 Aug 2011 22:46:44 GMT

Self development – what do you need to know about yourself? Review and understand these well chosen questions

ALL CHANGE

Mon, 15 Aug 2011 19:15:28 GMT

Can you think of a better image to convey the universal truth that everything changes and nothing ever stays the same? Surely it was not that long ago when we all used these phone boxes and we saw them as red, reassuring and redolent of continuity. And now just ten years on, they are rusty, redundant and replaceable. (I hope you like the alliteration.)

So what are the right lessons for us as we view the telephone graveyard? Not to hold on too tightly to the past for sure but to gently mourn and mark the past and its passing. Not always to view the change as necessarily good for us, but always to be open to change and know that it is part of life and cultivate the expectation that change can be made to work for us.

And finally, to learn what the lesson might for us by the change. Because only then can we let go.

What happens when your emotions get out of control?

Sun, 14 Aug 2011 23:10:08 GMT

High emotions can become self feeding and cause depressions, anxieties and addictions.

JUST BEING THERE

Sat, 16 Jul 2011 16:26:50 GMT

To look at this is enough to relax most of us - blue sky, a gorgeous Mediterranean sea and framed by rock and green vegetation.

Just close your eyes and recall a holiday memory that brings back calm and pleasure to you. Be aware of what you are feeling. Where is it located in your body? Stay with it.

It is good to know that that feeling is there for you - perhaps whenever you wish.

Permission to change your mind

Sun, 19 Jun 2011 23:53:14 GMT

The stones piled on top in the picture don’t look that steady but they are piled quite high, they are definitely elegant and arresting. With not too much more work, the piled stones really could be something.

First they need some cement and stickability between each stone and second the stone structure needs time to bed down and make its presence felt – for people to see it and appreciate it and give some feedback.

The same is true for you if you are open to creating a different story or legend for yourself.

Legend is used all the best spy stories, at least going back to John Le Carre. It is the completely new identity that ex spies need – background, education, work and relationships maybe that are credible and complete enough to begin a new life.

Write two stories of your life – one is how it seems to have been and another how it could have been. Then with both stories, compress each down into a sentence or phrase. Do the old story first – writing it down (this helps because writing uses different organising parts of the brain) and then compressing it into that sentence of phrase. Then write the second story and spend more time on this.

What are the key events that set you down on a different path – the turning points or forks in the road? How can you reframe the story?

I remember one client who realised that he could change the theme/story of his life from “difficult and hard work” to “having fun and great sex”

Remember Chinese Whispers.

Chinese Whispers is an instructive and fun game where a line of individuals pass on a message that is whispered privately in their ear by the previous line member. The message at the end is always very different from the starting seed message. The classic example is “send reinforcements we are going to advance” becomes “send three and fourpence we are going to a dance”. So if you make a change early on in how you process and evaluate some key event then that will lead you to create or experience something that turns out to be completely different. The converse is also true. Has there been an event or experience in your life that required serious effort to cope with that led you in a direction that kept moving you off course?

Trance work with an experienced therapist will help to embed the new story.

And the end result – developing and growing self confidence.