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Avoiding pain
January 06, 2014

Avoiding pain is not something we have to worry about as a conscious act of avoidance – if that is not an oxymoron. It is automatically built in to all of us. In other words, we will typically spend a lot of our time and effort unconsciously doing whatever seems necessary at the time to avoid future pain – emotional as well as physical – whether it is in one second’s time, one minute, one hour, one day, one week, one month, one year or in a lifetime’s time.

Maybe we spend too much time and effort on pain avoidance. We do this collectively I would say, where the avoidance of pain and suffering seems to confer sufficient legitimacy on any policy action, almost regardless of consequences. And if you say that the collective reflects the sum of the individuals (in the magnificent democracy in which we live), then we all are becoming much more desirous to avoid pain.

There are two observations to make to this. One is that in the end, this becomes a hopeless quest because pain is unavoidable. And second, it is through pain and suffering that we learn and grow (if it doesn’t kill us first).

So here’s to a learning and growing 2014 for us all, even though there will be some pain mixed in with it.

best wishes

Andrew Richardson
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