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Humiliation – a dish best taken cold
July 08, 2013
Hello,

Olivia Fane begins her chapter by quoting her grandmother who said to her “if you can risk being humiliated, the world is yours”. I find this quite hard to take even though I know what she is saying.

Thus, many of the clients who come to me are still suffering from early experiences of humiliation. School is a breeding ground for humiliation experiences for young minds, who have to endure loneliness and separation from the group. As I well know, these experiences stay with them and will impair their capacity for….well, the rest of their life.

But then – to risk all and to go for it - and then to find that it was not at all as you expected it to be and that you survived it and learnt something of yourself that you had never known. Well then yes, the world is yours.

I wonder if we are talking of the true and practical meaning of what courage is?

Inspired by Olivia Fane’s “the conversation no 28” – on Humiliation

best wishes
Andrew


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