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I'm dreading that
June 08, 2015

Do you recall the meaning of onomatopoeia?

This is a definition – “Onomatopoeia is defined as a word, which imitates the natural sounds of a thing. It creates a sound effect that mimics the thing described, making the description more expressive and interesting.” And here are some examples: “the buzzing bee, falling with a loud thump, the roaring sky, the rustling leaves. You get the idea?

From my professional experience – the word dread is powerfully onomatopoetic (if that is how you spell it). For, when my clients use that word – well then I really know what they are talking about.

Do you feel the same way about that word? If you do, then we must all choose another word. And in doing so we will not be feeling quite so hopeless and so more able to deal with the fear, apprehension, concern, worry or whatever word would be so much easier to use.

best wishes

Andrew Richardson

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by Sophia Yasmeen

    A person who has feelings of poverty or loneliness has not touched the richness or elevated company of the self that lies underneath emotions. We only become confused when we cannot find an answer but the answer is not a set of thoughts but a set of feelings that lie within. If you believe in thoughts you will always search for answers but if again and again you go within to the Purity of the soul you find that you are the answer. Add more thoughts and add more confusion and depression or go beyond thoughts by going within. The inclination to think and theorise about problems is powerful but only shows a weakness in being in touch with the self. You will know it because there's nowhere else you wish to be.

    Fascination with technology is stealing the space and gap of human coexistence. Children now days are almost born with a computer in their hands. The more I think of the shift in this world where technology has taken over our lives, the more I understand the reason why a human being behaves in such a way - with more aggression, restlessness and the need for incessant desire to have more are visible. Not many people are left who can remember how it felt to be without - having to depend on any kind of virtual reality. It is hard to remember what we loved about the gap, the silence, the space: we never ask for our deprivation back. Technology is killing our healthy habits like going for a walk or a hike, cooking and eating with family, playing indoor games with family & friends, having dialogues between family, read a book, gardening, sit in solitude, meditating, praying and so on. If we spend some time each day trying to find out how we can bring back those best possible lives, we will be able to re-experience those moments of peace.

    As I sit at my little wooden desk in the offices of Dagenham CAB. Having to deal with so many mentally distressed clients filled with anxiety and worry, the dominance and pressure of frequent communication with colleagues, constant distraction of too much information showing up on my computer screen. I stop and realise that what we all had left behind us is the GAP, a quiet life.

    In every event of our lives regardless how happy or tragic, how small or large they are, if we think and decide as we move forward, what it is it that we really want to take with us and leave behind? It will be nothing but our own good old peace of mind, and our freedom.

    True freedom cannot be found in remaining tied down to a machine where I can be reached instantly but in those places and moments when we can appreciate silence, solitude, or just being in the moment.

Sophia is a beautiful writer and I am happily sharing her work in my Feelbetter Newsletter.

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