It’s very simple really. We each of us hold a big basket which contains everything of value - that we believe, that we instinctively know to be true and that we are drawn to – all of which we know “work”. By which I mean that everything in that precious basket helps us to lead a life of meaning, activity and connection.
But we also have a skip nearby. This is for all that we have accumulated that we don’t need – that does not help us. Prejudices, habits, beliefs and thoughts that do not serve us well in the service of a life that works.
The question is: can we relieve ourselves of what we find does not serve us well – by depositing all of it into the skip? And to realise that there is always scope to clear out and clean up and not to hold on to stuff that we either no longer need or that has never served us well.
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by Sophia Yasmeen
It is important to understand that to overcome problems you need, on the one hand, inner power, and, on the other, the capacity to tolerate. Tolerating does not mean to put up with. To tolerate is to accept, understand and know how to face things. That is, to tolerate is not to put up with and then explode at a later stage. In tolerance you dissolve that which, otherwise you would be putting up with. Tolerance is like the ocean, which is an example of tolerance, because we throw a lot of dirt into the ocean, the ocean absorbs it and, over time, transforms it. Tolerance is being like the ocean, that is, knowing how to
absorb and dissolve, and finally to make it disappear.
Tolerance has to be balanced with the capacity to face things, which is based on bravery, courage and personal security. Tolerance is necessary for shared living, to be and allow to be. With the virtue of tolerance, you will continue to smile, you will never be discouraged. To smile when someone praises you is not to be tolerant. However, when someone turns into an angry enemy and insults you, but you do not have even the slightest sign of dejection on your face, not even in your thoughts, that is to be tolerant. To look, to speak and to enter in contact with feelings of compassion, patience, comprehension, love and respect, with a person that you do not have a good relationship with, is to have tolerance.
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