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Looking out to see what you can see
November 12, 2012

Six Rules for a Rewarding career by Eric Barker in The Adventures of Johnny Bunko

  1. Don’t plan
  2. Thinks strengths not weaknesses
  3. It’s not about you
  4. Persistence trumps talent
  5. Make excellent mistakes
  6. Leave an imprint

One of the characteristics of depression is an inescapable focus on yourself – your problems, the impossibility of seeing a way out and so a search for all that is wrong with you – that is keeping you lost and stuck..

Depression is a trance state locked on yourself. And of course depressed people are well aware of this which adds to their hopelessness because it seems that they cannot even let this go – to be outgoing and open and to be aware of something else other than yourself.

For most of us for most of the time, it is difficult to even imagine what it might be like to be trapped in your thoughts like this. Even so, it is a legitimate question to ask of all of us – are we focusing too much on ourselves, on our concerns and fears and fantasies rather than attending to what is out there.

To be curious and questioning and not judging. And trying very hard to see what is there. I am reminded of the words of Anaïs Nin - We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. So by looking outside you will in fact discover yourself.

best wishes

Andrew Richardson
Feelbetter Counselling East London

94 Malford Grove, London E18 2DQ

Direct Line: 0208 257 0429 Mobile: 07870 104651 Skype: famrichhg

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