First off we have those things that we know we don’t know – like who will win Wimbledon next year, or the next Lottery prize winner or where you new neighbour will have her next holiday or whether you will come down with a winter flu next year…and so on.
But much more important are all those unknowns that we have no idea about. All those events or non events that we had no idea might happen or not happen and how they might impact in unknowable ways. So who might you meet in the street tomorrow? What might you read about that shifts your perspective in a way you could never have imagined? Who might win an election in Belarus that matters in ways that you could never have imagined. Afterall where is Belarus?
Need I go on? Just acknowledge that it is these unknown unknowns which are really important and that to know this can release so much tension and fear.
by Sophia Yasmeen
Our cultural background, our society tends to reinforce the view that everything is about 'me' and 'mine'. "this is my body, I look like this. I am a woman, I am an Asian, I am 48 years old, I am a writer, I am a mother, I am a benefit adviser and so on. But all these are just conventions. When I identify myself through these roles that I play, I become attached, life then become like a sticky web. It gets so complicated that whatever I touch sticks to me and as I am so fearful of being lonely, I get myself into such a state where becoming free from all the stickiness seems to be an impossibility.
I step in to the silence and remain just an observer of life for what it is and allow it to serve its purpose and accept it, I can cope with the way life moves and changes without having to borrow noises from outside. When I let go of the conventions I don't throw them away. I don't have to kill myself or disrobe either... Only that there will be no suffering if there is the awakened mind seeing them for what they are; they just are as they are... So impermanent. I love the song 'one day I'll fly away... Leave your love to yesterday..' there is a negative connotation of this song but I think it has a very positive message. To expect anyone else to take away our loneliness is asking too much.
Sophia is a beautiful writer and I am happily sharing her work in my Feelbetter Newsletter.
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