So much of what we do is automatic and unthinking – such as our breathing and walking and digesting. And then we have a full range of automatic actions in response to the triggers of our daily life – eating, teeth cleaning, washing, TV channel hopping and so on. And of course that is how it has to be or else we will be overwhelmed and transfixed in our indecision.
But it is out of these automatic actions that come the behaviours and habits that we don’t like and would rather were not quite so prominent and fixed. And these can range from how we eat and talk and browse to addictive habits that can be very destructive.
So here is a little exercise. Pick just one automatic triggered action and see what you can do to make it a choice. And how might you do that?
by Sophia Yasmeen
The sky was rather gloomy today but after dealing with a week long heat-wave, I quite enjoyed the shadowy sky. I was sitting at an Algerian café in West London this morning, drinking a cup of black coffee with one shot in it as I don't like it too strong. My daughter was taking her dance lesson next door at Bharat Vidya Bhavan. In between reading the book "Wisdom of the ages" by Dr Wayne Dyer and having my coffee... I noticed something which I found later to be quite amazing.... People that have been popping in and out of the café some had pleasant smiles, seemed very much in at
that moment. However, I felt there was something missing. For a while I could not figure out what it was then suddenly realized that most of them were not actually present in the moment. I call them Thirsty Souls.....though they exist but you cannot not really find them. They were either preoccupied or too busy or in a rush. As Buddhists call them "Monkey minds" swinging from one tree to another. I looked around and asked myself, am I the only person who was not in a hurry? Being in the moment and being present in the moment are not quite the same. If we are constantly being tyrannized by time then how can we set our mind at ease in order to be in the flow and immerse ourselves completely in to whatever we do. The thirsty souls are starved for more time; but the more time they get, the thirstier they become. I understood that it is not exactly more time, more days and years, that we are starved for, it is the present moment and not knowing how to be present in that moment.
Some say I am a little slow, but I take that as a compliment. I feel that there is no need for me to rush, and no need to try to win the rat race, there’s nowhere I need to be, and no one I need to impress. In the business of everyday life we surely deal with present moment but we often view it as something we need to deal with "right now" but my friend "right now is not "now".
Sophia is a beautiful writer and I am happily sharing her work in my Feelbetter Newsletter.
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