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Just Pretending
April 27, 2015

"Just Pretend Dear Chap, Just Pretend" were allegedly said by Laurence Olivier to Dustin Hoffman while they were making the film Marathon Man. (Incidentally this is a film well worth watching, if you are comfortable with subtle menace and occasional violence.) We can imagine Olivier saying it, in a fruity English voice to the upstart American who was taking his acting responsibilities far too seriously.

The point is perhaps that we should appreciate that we are pretending all the time. But that only becomes evident to us when we are mindfully standing back and observing ourselves. Then, we can get a glimpse of the pretence that lies behind so much of what we do and who we are.

And perhaps that is all to the good. For by pretending or assuming what we are or what we want, then we have a much better chance of getting there.

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Andrew Richardson

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Letting Go
by Sophia Yasmeen

    Just as the bird has to find the courage to let go of the branch in order to fly, so we also must let go of our branches if we are to know the exhilaration of soaring to the highest potential of our life.

    The branches we hold to are our inner attachments - our beliefs, ideas and memories. And then there are the outer attachments - people, possessions, positions and privileges are a few. But as long as we hold on to them we will live in fear (of letting go and loss) and we will never be free.

    And just watch those birds, by letting go of one branch they are able to spend the rest of their life alighting on a million other branches, and they enjoy the view from each. Are you flying and soaring in your life, or are you stuck on one branch, cursing others as they fly past. Go on, try it ...let go!

Sophia is a beautiful writer and I will be sharing her work in my Feelbetter Newletter over the coming months. Enjoy.

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