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Equivocal judgement of self
September 28, 2015

Just spend a moment to ponder the headline to this newsletter. It needs a bit of a double take. Equivocal means not making an immediate judgment. It’s about waiting until more information becomes available. And perhaps it embraces the realisation that there is no need to panic. That a judgement or the reaching of a settled opinion can wait. Or indeed there is not a need for that judgment. That we can bide our time – observing and pondering and indeed maybe even realising that every judgement we make in the matter can be provisional.

But how might it be if we were being equivocal in terms of how we judge our self? Now that takes real courage. Afterall most of us will tend in one of two directions – either to having a very favourable and positive judgement of our self or to having a very critical and negative judgement.

Where are you on this spectrum of your own self judgement? Are you at the positive end or the negative end?

And how might you be able to move towards that equivocal centre?

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by Sophia Yasmeen

    Compassion cannot be enforced but created, coming from me and to me. Compassion is a feeling that reinforces the fact that all that is one. Just as it makes sense for me to have compassion for every part of myself, it makes sense for me to have compassion toward all that is, from a caterpillar to fellow human beings, from this the world to the universe of which I am a part of. I am to be compassionate of what I like and don't like, what I consider good, and what I consider... evil, of the light and the dark. What makes me compassionate is the awareness that we are one. I remind myself of that and meditate on that. A great soul once said "I am the child in Uganda, all skin and bones, - my legs as thin as bamboo sticks - and I am the arms merchant, selling deadly weapons to Uganda" I see myself in everything and every living being and love with the same level of compassion as I have for myself…."I look across the room and see me and the only you I know is me."

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