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What are you looking for?
December 29, 2014

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is going on inside all of us" he said to the boy. "It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is full of anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego." He continued, "The other is full of joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith." The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?" The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

This Two Wolves story clicks with all who hear it. And here is another!. It is my recall of a TV interview some twelve years ago given by Clive Woodward, who coached the England rugby team to their 2003 World Cup victory.

This followed an England defeat a few years before that. The interviewer asked him what he was going to do about it. He said that the team would be having the rest of the weekend off and look at the game only on Monday. He only favoured an immediate post mortem after victories as he was much more interested in what the team was doing right than was doing wrong.

An almost universal characteristic of the clients who come to see me is their relentless focus on what is going wrong and how this reflects badly on them and is confirmation of their perennial and overwhelming deficiencies. And I know that down the line they will have to be comfortable again (or for the first time) with their strengths. How are these working for them and what might be needed to reinforce them? And indeed, where they need to look to find them.

Be aware of where your focus is – for what you are looking for, you will find.

best wishes

Andrew Richardson
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