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Privacy and Attention – Opposites attract
June 29, 2015

Regular readers of this newsletter will know I consider both privacy and attention to be very important. In saying this I am doing no more than echoing the teaching of Human Givens. They see privacy and attention as two of our essential emotional human needs (there are nine in all according to Human Givens). I must admit that I don’t see them like that – in my mind, our vital needs for privacy and to give and receive attention are not equivalent to our need for meaningful relationships or satisfying work. They are facilitating needs – closer to money or health in the scheme of things. But of course they are no less important for that.

And they are opposites – that work best as opposing forces that together create a healthy equilibrium. That privacy is the time we are on our own to process what we have discovered and learnt and experienced while the attention we give to who we meet and interact with – is the vital input to the essential processing that we need to do.

best wishes

Andrew Richardson

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