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Pain is part of Life
April 24, 2017

This heading – Pain is part of Life – is the fourth of David Ricoh’s Five Things We Cannot Change and I would expect that we would all understand it to be true. For the alternative – of a life with no pain is not just impossible to contemplate or imagine, it exposes two simple truths. The first is that without pain, we would not know of the other – of pleasure, contentment and achievement. And the second is that it is through the enduring of pain that we learn and develop. In fact some would say that this is the only way we learn.

But this does not mean that we will not all strive to protect ourselves from the extremes of physical pain nor that we would not wish protect and support others who are suffering or who might suffer.

So, what do we mean by pain? The modern age has become one where extreme physical pain is now less but where emotional and psychological suffering would appear to be taking it’s place. And as Prince Harry has demonstrated, mental and emotional suffering is much more the common currency of the lives we are presumed to lead.

More next week.

by Sophia Yasmeen

    All stars in the galaxy are not equally bright, yet they do not outshine each other. Each has its own beauty, like each moment of our life has its own value and meaning. When we are shining naturally in everything we do,our urge to dim the light of others voluntarily ceases. Only when we have ego attached to our own success do we find it difficult to be happy for others. A naturally inspired heart will find joy in everything.

    Dr Wayne Dyer said, “Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing.” Our job is to be aware of our feelings, then shift out anything that weakens us. Why is it that we become so insecure when we see others in the limelight? Why do we become emotional when we see a colleague being promoted, or a friend’s child have with a grade of 99% or a relative or friend receiving a lot of attention on social media for their good work? It is all about self-acceptance.

    Unless I know and understand myself and have learned to love the person I am and everything about me, I will continue comparing myself to others which then, will be the death of my own success. There is no need to constantly evaluate myself. I am perfect in my own imperfections and beautiful in my own way. Everyone has his or her own time to shine, so be unique and memorable. I have a niece in San Francisco, who often said to me, “Auntie, you just always see good in others. ” I tell her that I don’t really have a choice Shona (treasure), I only see myself in others."

Sophia is a beautiful writer and I am happily sharing her work in my Feelbetter Newsletter.

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