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Hope and Aspiration
February 13, 2017

Our Human Given training makes very clear the role that nominalisations play in our language, discourse and understanding. Nominalisations are nouns whose meaning is not immediately clear like the meaning of a bus or wheelbarrow is but instead requires that we go on a internal search for meaning from our own experience. And of course so many of the nouns we use are nominalisation – such as peace, serenity, grief, sexism, racism, love, hate, happiness, security, safety etc. You get the picture? And of course nominalisations can be misused and abused by politicians, preachers, the media and the like. And so Human Givens therapists are taught to be aware of how people use nominalisations. We are also encouraged to use nominalisations ourselves – in the service of healing and empowering.

And hence my newsletter last week that railed against the use of the nominalisation of progress, which has become iniquitous and is both inhibiting of understanding and even oppressive.

And so here are a couple nominalisation for you to use instead – aspiration and hope. What do you think?

by Sophia Yasmeen

    We spend most of our waking hours in the process of filling our mind with borrowed noise. We try to protect us from being if being lonely is a crime. So we talk to each other; do things together so that we won't be left alone.' and yet inevitably, we are really alone in this human form. We can pretend; we can entertain each other; that’s about the best we can do. When it comes to the actual experience of life, we are very much alone; We create a world of our own, where we have friends, enemies, interesting companions. But the whole lot of it comes and goes. Anything that has a beginning will have an end. Everything that is born will die.

    Our cultural background, our society tends to reinforce the view that everything is about 'me' and 'mine'. "This is my body, I look like this. I am a woman, I am an Asian, I am 48 years old, I am a writer, I am a mother, I am a benefit adviser and so on. But all these are just conventions. When I identify myself through these roles that I play, I become attached and life then become like a sticky web. It gets so complicated that whatever I touch stick to me and as I am so fearful of being lonely, I get myself into such a state where becoming free from all the stickiness seems to be an impossibility.

    But if I step in to the silence and remain just an observer of life for what it is and allow it to serve its purpose and accept it, I can cope with the way life moves and changes without having to borrow noises from outside. When I let go of the conventions I don't throw them away. I don’t have to kill myself or disrobe either. Only that there will be no suffering if there is the awakened mind seeing them for what they are; they just are as they are, so impermanent. I love the song 'one day I'll fly away... Leave your love to yesterday..' there is a negative connotation of this song but I think it has a very positive message. To expect anyone else to take away our loneliness is asking too much.

Sophia is a beautiful writer and I am happily sharing her work in my Feelbetter Newsletter.

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