One of my favourite metaphors (I have just used it this weekend in a therapy session) is the spring bulb – that stays in the earth through the winter of frost and darkness - but then comes alive with the warmth of spring.
We all can find a part of us, even if it is deep down that will grow and bloom if we give it a little love and warmth. And it is there waiting to be appreciated and attended to. Or maybe it is about waiting for the right conditions - of a spring warming after a long cold winter.
by Sophia Yasmeen
Whenever a relationship brings out the worst in me I find it to be an opportunity to be free. I try to know every moment of my misery. If there is sorrow, I know that there is sorrow. If there is anger, jealousy, defensiveness, the urge to argue, the need to be right, an inner child demanding love and attention, — whatever it is, I work towards knowing the reality of that moment. My relationship with others then become a spiritual practice, a work of art. When we are reacting we are disconnecting ourselves from the source. Knowing and disconnectedness cannot co-exist for long, because
everything is transient. When I observe patiently the disconnected state of the other person and in my knowing I hold the other in the loving embrace of peace...I create the right amount of compassion for both of us. . If I react at all to the other person's disconnectedness, I become disconnectedness, I become disconnected myself. But if I then remember to know that moment I realize nothing is lost.
Sophia is a beautiful writer and I am happily sharing her work in my Feelbetter Newsletter.
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