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Retrieving what we Need
September 18, 2017

I came across the word retrieval this week when reading a review of a book by Matthew Syed on what we can learn from top sportsmen. It’s about retrieval said the review – of hope, of performance, of technique, of knowing what to do and doing it.

Retrieval is a great word and of course like the most efficient computer or search facility, we can retrieve from our unconscious, memories and habits and beliefs and reactions pretty well instantaneously. But are they the best ones?

And if they are not then believe that you can access better ones. My experience as a therapist has convinced me that the vast majority of us have everything we need – but we do need to find it.

by Sophia Yasmeen

    Whenever I am at a gathering and I hear discussions between men and women about world politics, material wealth, clothes, jewellery, fashion, gossips and so on...... within seconds I know that I don't fit in to that environment. I’ve done a lot of work over the years to align my life and work with my truth, passions and purpose. I’ve made major shifts, had hard conversations, and have pushed myself in ways that stretched me to tears. So when these moments come where I find myself in one of these steroid type groups, where people are nicely dressed, despite the fact that for a moment the world feels suffocating, isolating, and overwhelmingly foreign... I feel gratitude - gratitude for the never ending jabs that bring me closer to my own truth and my whole self. Jabs that say, sweetie this isn’t right for you. This isn’t where you belong. This isn’t really who you are. Jabs that prompt me to make changes so that, albeit slowly but surely, I start to show up more fully and completely in my life. I came here not to fit in but to stand out. Why waste time trying to plug into a power source that needs recharging itself. I don’t fit in, and that’s okay. In fact, that’s exactly as it should be.

Sophia is a beautiful writer and I am happily sharing her work in my Feelbetter Newsletter. Read her new blog here

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