Compulsions, if hiding behind a long distant memory can be easily cleared We all have compulsions - which are patterns and habits and moods and motivations, which when we think about them, don’t make much sense. For most of us, for most of the time, these compulsions are simply a little odd or annoying. For example for a long time I was an obsessive time keeper and went to great lengths always to be early for appointments. For some though, these hidden and inexplicable impulses are damaging, humiliating and destructive and necessarily are kept hidden. These impulses could be based on a molar memory – and if they are, then they can be cleared quickly. For example, that first pleasure of trying out your Mum’s clothes as a little boy is hidden behind the pain and humiliation of being discovered doing it. Molar memories can be found in the most unlikely places and I have found that there has been some quite extraordinary rapid recoveries and change, once the memory has been identified and been made conscious. For example, I have found that Molar or hidden memories have been, for certain clients, the source of:
Feelbetter Counselling - to clear these hidden memories
Often the simple uncovering of the hidden pleasure is enough as the awareness of this in every day life does the rest.
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Case study: Simon
Simon worked in a big law firm for many years– under real pressure but earning a lot of money. His problem was crack cocaine – which was now impacting on his work. He sometimes went missing from the office for days and when he returned he was hardly fit. His colleagues were covering for him but would not do so for much longer.
The first thing needed was to confront other problems in Simon’s life – trauma from his childhood and the nature of his marriage. When this had been put on a firmer footing, we worked together over 2/3 months to change the habitual triggers that led to the benders and also to build up his self confidence.Control came slowly and it was a number of months before Simon was happy to stop the habit completely
Case study: Brian
Brian had been drinking more and more as a means to suppress his anxiety – but he was suffering black outs after his binges when he could remember nothing. This terrified him. The source of the problem was trauma from a very bad accident – which had then put a stop to a cherished ambition to study.
What was needed was not only the de-traumatising of the experience but to help Brian to get his life back on track – a career path that would satisfy him and a better relationship with his long suffering girlfriend.
Case study: Ursula
Ursula was in her late twenties and over the past few years had found that most of her socialising on a Friday and Saturday entirely revolving around coke and alcohol. She was sick of it but found that she could not stop.
The first task was to get Ursula’s life working better. She needed to leave home and maybe even change jobs. She was a travel agent. She also needed to spend time with other friends who were not into this coke culture.
And when she was ready to stop, it was quite easy. The patterns of her weekends could be changed and her focus became increasingly balanced and healthy.
Case study: Evelyn
Evelyn’s life was working well. She was married and had a small child but found that her long standing cannabis habit was still with her. A lot of it was associated with sex with her husband.
We had one long session of therapy and that was all that was needed. I explained to Evelyn exactly what the psychological basis of her habit was and this relieved her. We then looked at the triggers that ended with the cannabis consumption – and found ways to shift and rehearse new triggers in trance.
The first session will only be charged if you found that it helped and/or you decide to continue with me.
Over 85% of my clients feel better at the end of their treatment - normally around 4 sessions. This is a high number and should give you confidence. I am pretty well unique as a private therapist - to maintain such records.
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