Your emotions need to be working for you Emotions are a call to action; an impulse and expectation that something will be needed – such as to fight or defend yourself (anger) or to plan and implement necessary change (worry). When you can hear what your feelings are saying to you and then act decisively or dismiss the call quickly as not needed, you are emotionally intelligent and healthy.
Your arousals can also be the source of mental distress. When they are too strong it can inhibit sensible action or freeze you in inaction as you desperately try to cope with the stress you are enduring. Eventually it could be that effective action becomes impossible – as worries, strong feelings and negative projections are screaming out to you - and you fall into the Whirlpool of Emotion.
So what happens when powerful and negative feelings are out of control? Where does the Whirlpool lead to? Depression will arise if your worry destroys your capacity to dream and sleep properly. This then erodes your energy and motivation. Anxieties might worsen and also evolve - taking on different forms such as phobias, social anxieties, agoraphobia and uncontrollable worry and projection. Addictions and Obsessions might also feed on the situation. This would initially be an attempt to self medicate or gain control but this then grows and grows until taking over.
The result will always be collapsing self confidence and high stress as life and relationships become more problematic and attempted solutions fail badly. Reducing arousal is the route to all good therapy and long-term emotional healing - as when you are highly aroused you cannot think straight. But it is more than this. In one way or another, high and uncontrollable arousal is the condition and source of mental distress. As we have seen, the best way to view mental problems (be they depressions, anxieties, addictions, obsessions or whatever) is the failing response to arousal levels that are intolerable. And that this response not only fails but actually makes things worse. Even so, the strong feelings are still communicating something and must somehow be heard. High arousal must not be shunned or driven away but understood and acted upon and maybe, if your arousal is too loud to be heard, you need some help to quieten it down. Just as we can appreciate the benefits of pain (for example it will demand that we take our hand away quickly from a hot stove), so high arousal is also our friend. The first purpose of finding ways to relax is so that the high arousal can be quietened down enough to be understood and then acted upon. Counselling for Reducing Arousal
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As life and how we cope fail to work.....into the whirlpool of emotion we go.....and out of which we may develop either a predominantly anxiety, depression or addiction problem.
The key point is not to focus on the detail of the problem but to understand that all have a common cause and common route back to emotional health.
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