Wellbeing Workshop

Three modules, each module is one half day
To be taken as it suits you, weekdays or weekends

This workshop is for those who:

  • Want to understand and overcome their periodic anxieties, depression feelings and addictive and compulsive behaviours – and all of us have these from time to time
  • Know that to find greater peace, resilience and emotional control is a great and worthwhile prize
  • Are curious about the new psychology of happiness

In each module, there will be understandings from the latest psychology and neurobiology and teaching from ancient wisdom. There will be exercises, tools, stories and direct experiences – all to take away with you.

Module 1   What you need to know . . . . and why
The lessons and understandings from the Human Givens approach - the newest and most radical school of psychotherapy in over 40 years – enhanced by my experience as a private practitioner of eight years

Module 2   Working on yourself
Learn to hear and understand what your emotions are telling you and identify those patterns that need to be shifted . . . and how to shift them.

Module 3   Problem Solving and that critical present and future focus
Human beings are problem solving animals – so what have you learnt and what can you now do?

What you can expect

A combination of direct teaching, group discussion, exercises, trance and stories for:

  • Profound and empowering understandings:
    What it is to be human, why do we get depressed, anxious and
    addictive and what will bring greater control, peace and true
  • Increased control over your emotions:
    Identify and remove those past emotional patterns that no longer
    serve you
  • Learnings of new tools and insights:
    How to cope better with future stress and so allow you to continue to
    be more in control and resilient
  • Experiences to calm, entrance and I hope inspire

£60 per half day module or £150 for the three half day modules booked together

Location: 94 Malford Grove, South Woodford, London E18 2DQ

Maximum of six participants per module. Refreshments provided.

The three modules add up to twelve hours – with explanation, exercises, guided imagery and notes.  The modules can be delivered over week or weekend days, or evenings.

What would suit you? Call on 0208 257 0429 or send a message.  We will arrange a programme that works for you.

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What we all know deep down

  1. Pursuing Pleasurable experiences does not work
      This is about our genetics – carrots and sticks
  2. Happiness seems to be more or less fixed for all of us in the developed world
      Though a good core relationship and religion can help a bit
  3. The X factor is difficult to identify
      Optimism helps but it is hard to acquire (like a taste for eels)


Resilience is much more important – so know what it is to be Human

  1. Emotions not thoughts drive our behaviour and choices and these are habitual and genetic patterns of response that we rarely notice
  2. To keep emotions under our control (and not controlling us) we must get our Emotional and Physical Needs met


And then begin to work with first Principles

  1. Directing effort to getting Needs met in a balanced way
  2. Understand Emotions
      What are they and how do they work?
      The importance of metaphor
      Flight or Fight and the Amygdale
      Problem solving
      The important genetic emotional templates
  3. Monitoring Yourself
      Cultivate Awareness and the Observing Self
      What are your Telltale Warning Signs?
      Learn about your Needs and how to Audit these
  4. Repairing habitual patterns that do not serve you
      What are your limiting beliefs?
      How have you habitually acted and felt in order to survive?
      Are there flight/fight emotions outside your control?
      Overcome What Ifs (Guilt, Regret, Grievance)
      Neutralise If Onlys (Projections, Unproductive Worrying)
  5. Focus on Hygiene
      Nutrition, Exercise, Low Arousal, Sleep and Addictions


    And remember

    • The brain is plastic and reprogrammable
    • To stay as much as possible in the Present - a state of Flow
    • Human beings are both problems solvers and social animals

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Meditate and be mindful.

Three mindfulness practices

Life Affirmations

Some of my sources and inspirations

Eckhart Tolle - The Power of Now - explains and inspires that to be present is the heart of all happiness practice. Tolle is now very big and even has a TV station. Notwithstanding his insights are profound. Click here

Victor Frankel - Man’s Search for Meaning Click here

Thich Nhat Han is a Vietnamese monk who has written extensively and for many years on Mindfulness. Click here

Ronald Siegal The Mindfulness Solution. Siegal is a academic psychologist who has made all this respectable and acceptable. He does though write well. Click here

A good mindfulness site Click here

Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania has cornered the market in Happiness – by being scientific and therefore respectable.
The VIA Signature Strengths Questionnaire is worth doing. Click here - BUT I would not get bogged down in the other surveys.

Jonathan Haidt – The Happiness hypothesis has been a main inspiration for me and I use his work extensively. Click here

How to meditate Click here

Headspace is meditation for today Click here

Free Mindfulness website - an excellent resource

Modern Buddhism Click here

The Five Things we cannot change
  1. Everything changes and ends
  2. Things do not always go according to plan
  3. Life is not always fair
  4. Pain is part of Life
  5. People are not loyal and loving all the time
  6. David Richo

Five Steps to Happiness
  1. Connect
  2. Developing relationships with family, friends, colleagues and neighbours will enrich you
  3. Be Active
  4. Sports, hobbies, such as gardening or dancing or just a daily stroll will make you feel good.
  5. Be Curious
  6. Noting the beauty of everyday moments as well as the unusual and reflecting on them helps you to appreciate what matters to you
  7. Learn
  8. Fixing a bike, learning an instrument, cooking – the challenge and satisfaction brings fun and confidence
  9. Give
  10. Helping friends and strangers links your happiness to a wider community and is very rewarding

Do these for two months and see the difference they make!
  1. Get Physical
  2. Exercise for half an hour three times a week.
  3. Count your blessings
  4. At the end of each day reflect on at least five things you are grateful for.
  5. Talk time
  6. Have an hour long uninterrupted conversation with your partner or closest friend each week.
  7. Plant something
  8. Even if it’s a window box or pot plant. Keep it alive!
  9. Cut your TV viewing by half

  10. Smile at and/or say hello to a stranger
  11. At least once each day.
  12. Phone a friend
  13. Make contact with at least one friend or relation you have not been in contact for a while and arrange to meet up.
  14. Have a good laugh at least once a day

  15. Every day make sure you give yourself a treat (and do something different)
  16. Take time to really enjoy this.
  17. Daily kindness
  18. Do an extra good turn for someone each day.

Even fish can only drink so much of the sea.
Sufi wisdom quoted by Indries Shah