Understanding the beginning principles of good counselling is very important and these are mine. Doing whatever it takes to get emotions working for the client and so are altogether calmer and then encouraging that critical tipping first domino point – that from that there will be further and bigger change by the client.
Listen to this Tenth Audio of the “What makes Good Counselling” series and you can also read the accompanying blog post.
Listen/download to my audio: My two beginning principles for mental and emotional relief
Read my Depression Help Blog post: My two beginning principles for mental and emotional relief
1: No Counselling model is better than any other
Audio 2: What makes a good counsellor
Audio 3: Positive expectancy
Audio 4: Trance explained
Audio 5: CBT is not the answer
Audio 6: Normalisation
Audio 7: Human Givens Counselling
Audio 8 Five questions
Audio 9: Depression help by the NHS
Audio 10: Two beginning Principles
Audio 11: Feelbetter Counselling
Audio 12: In praise of Scott Miller
Emotional and mental healing is not about fixing something, like a hot water boiler or even a broken leg, but setting a living being free to move in a better direction. Gabrielle Roth understood “If you just set people in motion they’ll heal themselves.”
Luckily, there are many ways to do this and certainly many ways I attempt to do so. But in all cases, there is one overriding and immediate objective for virtually all clients who come to me – which is to get their emotional arousal down and more under their control. Think of a ship tossing in a storm. The sea has to quieten down before anything else is possible. The same will be true for those who come to me, whatever are the particulars of their problem. Their emotions will be out of control – dominated by fears, obsessive thoughts, exhaustion, angers, shame and guilt and so on. And as a result, their self confidence will have plummeted and they will be stuck and lost. And movement, even a small one will be very hard.